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Mish mash => Open Forum => Topic started by: Jeremy Mitchell on February 10, 2012, 12:17:43 PM
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Where has the time gone?!!! My 13 year old daughter is going out on a date tonight and I need to have a chat with her guy friend. He has been to our house to have dinner before and seemed like a great kid. Any suggestions to what I can do to scare the living ba'jeezus out of him with out coming off as a bully? I am thinking about sitting down with him while I clean all my weapons and tell him that I am a really nice guy until I have a reason to act otherwise. No threats, just the facts. Thoughts?
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Cleaning the gun while having the sit down talk with him should help Jeremy.
My girls are 16 & 17 now, I remember those first dates as well, nerve racking for me but all went well. I would never let them date anyone that reminded me of myself as a teen if you know what I mean... ;)
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Cleaning the gun while having the sit down talk with him should help Jeremy.
My girls are 16 & 17 now, I remember those first dates as well, nerve racking for me but all went well. I would never let them date anyone that reminded me of myself as a teen if you know what I mean... ;)
I definitely know whatcha mean. ;D Same here!
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Tell how much you love your baby and will do anything to protect her, and no one better ever hurt her or make her cry or there is going to be hell to pay. Ask him if he understands and if he plans on being the same as a father. As a personal added touch, I'd make that the last thing I'd tell him with a steely-eyed look, and when he nodded yes he understood, I'd shake his hand and say "have my daughter home by XXXX hours" , and walk away. It'll be the last thing he remembers as he walks away knowing..."i better not flock this up."
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I agree with casually cleaning a weapon while you talk to him. Only the last things I would whisper in his ear is "I have no problem with going back to jail to protect my family".
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Tell how much you love your baby and will do anything to protect her, and no one better ever hurt her or make her cry or there is going to be hell to pay. Ask him if he understands and if he plans on being the same as a father. As a personal added touch, I'd make that the last thing I'd tell him with a steely-eyed look, and when he nodded yes he understood, I'd shake his hand and say "have my daughter home by XXXX hours" , and walk away. It'll be the last thing he remembers as he walks away knowing..."i better not flock this up."
This is exactly what I plan to say in the next few weeks.
Jeremy, I am sure that you have raised HER well enough that there will be no problems.
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I agree with all the above posts
When my eldest daughters brought boys around when they were in high school I asked them If they wanted to see my gun collection (what lad wouldn't). By the time we got through the rifles they had an idea of what I might be getting at. By the time the handguns were gone through I'm sure it was quite evident.
If I figured that wasn't enough we would go for a drive and when I clipped a running coyote at 300 yds they knew I wasn't just a collector.
Be sure to meet them at the door when they get home the first couple of times to let them know that you are looking out for your daughter, after that all it takes is the lights left on.
I don't think I intimidated these boys. I think I convinced them of what I thought was important...my daughters.
It's better to be proactive as there are no do-overs.
Good luck.
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I started out telling them thier job was to keep me out of jail. Because I'd kill anyone that hurt my Baby. That along with the gun cleaning should do the trick.
Jack
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Two videos with differnt points of view, but both are after the same thing.
Stay Cool When Your Daughter Begins Dating (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VdJe7s8khA#ws)
WARNING, NOT suitable language for work! (but oh so funny) If you're offended by hearing the f-bomb, do not watch this video below.
Bad Boys II - First Date Skit (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o3NQaU7awPI#ws)
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I raised 3 daughters. The oldest made good choices while in H.S. It was after she moved out the quality of boy went south. Today she is back with her ex -husband.
Second daughter was rebellious. I told her dates I expected him to treat my daughter just like he would want someone to treat his future wife. On top of this there were a couple of boys who concerned me a lot. With the future bride talk I included the fact if there was any sex, I would show them an end of their member they had not seen before. (Words were slightly modified) A couple never came back. She gave us a wonderful grandson who is about to turn eight. I missed the father as she was over 18 and not at home much with her job. I don’t think highly of this bone head.
Third one didn’t date much but in H.S but would talk too all hours of the morning on her cell. She seemed more attracted to boys from other schools. She became boy crazy in collage and has not lived at home for some time.
All of the boys who came to my house was aware of what I did for a job (LEO) and knew I shoot competitively. I didn’t have to clean guns, just display the trophies and medals. Small collection it is. :thumbs:
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Two videos with differnt points of view, but both are after the same thing.
Stay Cool When Your Daughter Begins Dating (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VdJe7s8khA#ws)
WARNING, NOT suitable language for work! (but oh so funny) If you're offended by hearing the f-bomb, do not watch this video below.
Bad Boys II - First Date Skit (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o3NQaU7awPI#ws)
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I do have some SRT and shooting competition mementos I could show him.........
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Jeremy aren't you military?
What my Dad used to do with my little sisters boyfriends was to have them stop by for a chat.
He would set in his chair in full uniform and just talk with them.
(Nancy later told me they referred to the chat as a meeting with "the General").....
(Dad was actually a Warrant Officer)
They generally got the point....
Of course it probably helped that her 2 big brothers would let the guy know that if anything made Nancy unhappy,,,, her brothers would be "there".....
Ride safe, Ted
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Both my daughters were taught about about birth control pills. Family doctor was told they had our permission to get them. Also how to prevent getting STD.
I told them when they left the house they could do anything they wanted to do!! I would not be responsible if they screwed up. And THEY would pay for it!! NOT ME!!
Some people thought I was nuts. But the reality is when they leave the house THEY can do anything they want to do.Just make sure that they know they will pay the price,not you. It's called responsibility.
By the way that was quite a few years and they did do it right. Some times you get lucky!
A little P.S. Tell a kid they can't do something and they will prove you wrong!!
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Yes, I am military. Been in the Army for 12 years.
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He was just here and picked my daughter up. He rang the door bell and I opened the door and he said "Good evening Mr. Mitchell." I told him to come in since my daughter was still getting ready. I asked him what the plan was (to make sure we were on the same page) movie starts at 7:45 and he said he would have my daughter home before 9:45. I told him as long as she comes home in the same condition as she leaves it will be a great night for everyone. He said "Yes sir, thank you!" I talked to his mom for a minute and they were off. He was so nervous and that makes me more comfortable. Now we will see if he walks her to the door when they get back.........
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When the boyfriends are of driving age, I used to ask them for their license and make a copy of it. Then I would ask for their home phone number and parents name
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10 Rules For Dating My Daughter
Rule One:
If you pull into my driveway and honk you'd better be delivering a package, because you're sure not picking anything up.
Rule Two:
You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter's body, I will remove them.
Rule Three:
I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don't take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose his compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.
Rule Four:
I'm sure you've been told that in today's world, sex without utilising a "barrier method" of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate, when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.
Rule Five:
It is usually understood that in order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is "early."
Rule Six:
I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.
Rule Seven:
As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process that can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don't you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?
Rule Eight:
The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where there are no parents, policemen, or nuns within eyesight. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka - zipped up to her throat. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which features chain saws are okay. Hockey games are okay. Old folks homes are better.
Rule Nine:
Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a pot-bellied, balding, middle-aged, dim-witted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.
Rule Ten:
Be afraid. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy near Hanoi. When my PTSD starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveway you should exit your car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car - there is no need for you to come inside. The camouflaged face at the window is mine.
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He dropped her off..............early! They walked up the front steps and I happened to see them and met them at the front door. I asked if they had good a time, and told the guy friend thanks for bringing her home before the predetermined time. He told my daughter goodbye and that he would see her Monday at school. I said goodbye and waved to his Mom. Once we were in the house I asked my daughter about the movie and she gave me a complete rundown of the plot. I am confident that there was no funny business. When I asked her if he had the courage to hold her hand, she said "no he was nervous and kept asking if I needed any refill on her popcorn and soda." Sounds like a good kid. Maybe I'll take him and my daughter shooting sometime......
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He dropped her off..............early! They walked up the front steps and I happened to see them and met them at the front door. I asked if they had good a time, and told the guy friend thanks for bringing her home before the predetermined time. He told my daughter goodbye and that he would see her Monday at school. I said goodbye and waved to his Mom. Once we were in the house I asked my daughter about the movie and she gave me a complete rundown of the plot. I am confident that there was no funny business. When I asked her if he had the courage to hold her hand, she said "no he was nervous and kept asking if I needed any refill on her popcorn and soda." Sounds like a good kid. Maybe I'll take him and my daughter shooting sometime......
He saved you a lot of trouble (http://i80.photobucket.com/albums/j180/stevewfl/bigthumb.gif)
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He saved you a lot of trouble (http://i80.photobucket.com/albums/j180/stevewfl/bigthumb.gif)
(http://i80.photobucket.com/albums/j180/stevewfl/avatars/fixproblems.jpg)
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Yer shovel looks used though, recently used ::)
Rick
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I absolutely love the shovel thing. I think I'll add that to my repetoir.
It's a great feeling when they get home safe and sound!!!
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I was just kidding around with my oldest daughters boyfriend but musta been effectitive. I sat him down and had a little talk with with him. I asked him if he knew what PTSD was; I started getting real nervous and asked him if he could hear those rotor blades...jumped out of my chair, grabbed a pool cue and two balls, I yelled frags out then tossed the balls in his direction, picked up the pool cue and started shooting.
He is still with her, but to this day for some reason he will not watch "The Hurt Locker" or "Jarhead" with me. I'm starting to think he doesnt care for Gulf War movies.
Side note: I do apologize for making light of PTSD. It is a very bad and very real condition. A few of my buddies that I served with still to this day are not "entirely" right in the head.
My grandfather came back from the "war to end all wars" with 45 shell shock ???
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Outback, I like your rules. Maybe a bit rought for 13 year old with Mom Driving. But well thought out!!
Regardless of if you have a daughter or not. I REALLY LIKE your rule #3! :thumbs: :thumbs:
Rule Three:
I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don't take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose his compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.
Ride safe, Ted
pS: Cavediver, I laughed at those video's till I had tears running....
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Outback, I like your rules. Maybe a bit rought for 13 year old with Mom Driving. But well thought out!!
Regardless of if you have a daughter or not. I REALLY LIKE your rule #3! :thumbs: :thumbs:
Rule Three:
I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don't take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose his compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.
Ride safe, Ted
I too love rule three! That low hanging pants crap has to be the most asinine 'fashion statement' EVER! And I did live through the 70's and bell bottoms. What are those guys thinking?
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Outback, I like your rules. Maybe a bit rought for 13 year old with Mom Driving. But well thought out!!
I blatantly plagiarized them from elsewhere on the internet. Hold on them... They'll be more relevant in a couple of years. ;)
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Conrad/Outback, clearly, GREAT MINDS think alike!
Jeremy, I know what you can tell him.
Tell him that if he isn't "correct", members from the COGdom will be coming by for a "Business call"...
Ride safe, Ted
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I wore my old "Blackwater Security" hoodie when the first kid picked up my daughter. No problems with him. I'm glad all went well, Jeremy.
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Going on a date at 13.......hell no!!!!!!
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I picked up a line that worked once: "If you do it to her, I will do it to you." And then you give him a hug and a big kiss to seal the deal.
No guns needed. Let their imagination run with it.