Thanks to all who responded. The suggestion on using the white/red wire is correct. Last evening, prior to getting all this wonderful information, I figured 'what the heck, I can use a multimeter, and it just can't be THAT hard'. However, I was a bit reluctant to mess too much with the existing relays so I went directly to the headlights themselves. Of course that required taking the top panels off and I removed the Cee Bailey's Ultra as well just to give me more working room. Knowing there was a ground, a low beam and a high beam wire, all I needed to do was figure out which was which. Despite a determined effort to remove the bulb from the housing, I just could not figure out how the damn thing came out, so I carefully exposed the wires leading to the bulb and went from there. Sure enough, white/red is the high beam which shows 12+V when the high beam switch is turned on AND when the Flash to Pass button is pushed. I ran a wire from that to the coil of the relay and another from ground to the other side of the coil. The meter shows continuity on the relay across one terminal with the low beam on. As soon as the high beam is turned on, that terminal shows open, and the other terminal is then closed (showing continunity). That's all I needed to know.
It was only about 90 degrees in the garage and close to 9PM at that point, so I was content to put the tools down and back away before I did something stupid. Tonight, I will wire it all up and be done (for now). I am thinking I will mount the rather large (1 1/4 x 1 1/2 x 1 1/2) dimmer below the left top side panel - in front of the glove box. I intend the dimmer to be a 'set and forget' device, so I will literally mount it under the panel so that it is not visible. This will also eliminate the need for drilling a hole or multiple holes in that panel and also allow me to replace this dimmer should I be able to locate a smaller one.
I will take the camera to the garage and take some in-process pics as I go along.