I am sorry to hear about your Dad I posted last on the 2 of November about you and your dad. I lost my Dad 5 days latter on the 7 th after a 3 @1/2 week battle in Hospital .I will be praying for you and you dad , remember he loved you with all his heart and still loves you ,forgive him for anything you hold against him, forgive him as he has forgiven you,love him and your family .Do your best ,for that is all he would want you to do ,just remember no one is perfect .Remember pray for him yourself and have some quite time with God .If only I had something to forgive him for. I am sorry for your loss and dread the day I lose my father. He has been the best of fathers and I owe him so much.
We are here for you, Chet. Being the caregiver during the advanced times in your loved one's life is difficult, yet nesessary.Thanks Jim, I didnt have that site, it is bookmarked for future use. One thing I can't/won't do is place him in a home, it would be a one way ticket for him. I will use their resources to see what they can offer as help from a wiser strategic way of thinking and planning. I live next door to him, we have a well worn path that leads from his back door to my front door. We walk past a tree that was just a sapling when I was a kid, it started on the backside of my dogshouse (Penny). That tree is approaching 6 feet thick and is a daily reminder of my youth and everything my father did for me. He still walks his property and looks at everything we have built. To remove him from that would be pure thievery. His basement is filled with antlers from many memorable hunts, plenty of old tools from his father and relatives long since past. His upstairs has many simple things, items like the naval shells that his father filled with lead shot and tapped out some intricate designs, emptied, polished and turned into a lamp. There is no way any of these could ever be replicated. And the love. It is a privelage to be his trusted son, never a chore. I am blessed to have such a wonderfull mentor.
Demanding care without any rewards of improvment is the single defeating result that makes one raise their hands in surrender.
Stay strong, Chet. Prayers sent for you and your Dad.
I'm sure that you have exhausted all avenues in the alzheimer's care field, but just in case, and I don't know where in Washington state you are..
http://www.carewashington.org/list02_wa_Alzheimers_facilities.htm
Daycare could be a blessing for the both of you.
God bless
Jim
So, I'll open up with what I was aking help for, Pappy seems to be getting worse, this weather isnt helping any, but even simple chores he's done since childhood are escaping him or easily confusing him. What I need now is the mental strength to continue the fight, my back is healing nicely, seeing the physical therapist, man are my muscles sore! I start 5 days a week next week, I really need to get back to work, losing %40 of my pay is putting a damper on my retirement home and now that the holliday season is over I'm needed back at work.
Please pray for me and my father, we both need help,
Chet
Thanks Jim, I didn't have that site, it is bookmarked for future use. One thing I can't/won't do is place him in a home, it would be a one way ticket for him. I will use their resources to see what they can offer as help from a wiser strategic way of thinking and planning. I live next door to him, we have a well worn path that leads from his back door to my front door. We walk past a tree that was just a sapling when I was a kid, it started on the backside of my dogshouse (Penny). That tree is approaching 6 feet thick and is a daily reminder of my youth and everything my father did for me. He still walks his property and looks at everything we have built. To remove him from that would be pure thievery. His basement is filled with antlers from many memorable hunts, plenty of old tools from his father and relatives long since past. His upstairs has many simple things, items like the naval shells that his father filled with lead shot and tapped out some intricate designs, emptied, polished and turned into a lamp. There is no way any of these could ever be replicated. And the love. It is a privilege to be his trusted son, never a chore. I am blessed to have such a wonderfull mentor.
do y'all think a thread about Alzheimers would be beneficial to the forum?Will do and I will tell him. I'll give some serious thought to a new thread.
It wouldn't hurt to give it a try.
I'd be interested.
Tell your dad that we all say hello to him...
Ride safe, Ted